When Christians Should Feel Guilty (and When They Shouldn't)

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We've all done some crap.

And I don't think any of us are proud of it.

In fact, we Christians do a whole lot of feeling bad about it.  Almost all the time.

We live life like we're constantly trying to dig our way out of this gigantic hole, and God's not going to be happy until we get out of the hole.

"Is this good enough for you today?"
"Have I avoided your wrath today?"

Even worship.

"Let me sing to you so I can make up the ground from all the times I've screwed up."

We like to call this "guilt."

Some of us are resistant to it. People who are resistant often end up leaving the church. Because it's hard as crap to live with a big condemning guilt-trip hammer above your head all the time, threatening to smash you. I don't blame them, honestly.

Why?

Because no one was meant to live that way.

See, we're all used to guilt meaning we are less valuable. We all hear things like, "You should have... but instead you..." and they begin to steal our self worth, because we believe they're true. We believe it's what God thinks. Or it's at least what we think.

This is really sad. Because it runs people away from God. But God doesn't even use this kind of guilt. His voice is something entirely different.

The Two Kinds of Guilt

Type #1: Condemnation

Here's the kind of guilt people run away from: "You aren't good enough, and you should be. And so I'm constantly wishing you could be better than you are, and I'm disappointed in you every day."

It feels like it's a strike on who you are.

And condemnation is NOT God's voice.


Type #2: Conviction

This is the good kind of guilt. It's the kind of guilt God brings about. What's so "different" and "good" about this kind of guilt? It doesn't make you want to run away. Somehow, it instead makes you feel even stronger. It still hurts -- but it doesn't demean you.

 It says, "I know who you REALLY are. When you do this crap, you are SETTLING. Who you are is better than this, I designed you for something greater than this, I have better plans for you than this."

It's a call to BECOME who you are.

And conviction is God's voice.


There's something special about conviction. And something that sucks about condemnation. Do you see it? Do you see the difference? Condemnation is a strike on who you are, while conviction is a call to become who you are.

Condemnation makes you feel "less than." Conviction tells you the real you is so much more than this. One makes you want to change because fear, the other makes you want to change because of love.

One makes you feel completely worthless, and the other makes you feel like you are so extremely valuable.

How to Live Out of the Right Kind of Guilt

The way you live out of conviction is simple: Learn to hear the difference between conviction and condemnation. Only believe what's true about you. You're not worthless. You're not in a hole, trying to dig out so that God will like you.

When I was dealing with this a few months ago, I felt like God said, "I haven't condemned you. Why are you condemning yourself?"

I was condemning myself. Or rather, I was agreeing with whatever was condemning me.

The most common type of guilt we hear is condemnation. And the bad part is, we normally attribute it to God. "I screwed up today, I'm not going to be enough for God. Oh boy, He's mad at me again..." But it's not actually his voice.

God convicts, Satan condemns.

And so the real guilt, the only kind of guilt you should listen to, is the kind of guilt that doesn't make you want to run away. It's the kind of guilt that makes you stronger, not weaker. It's the kind of guilt that makes you see yourself as worth more, not less.

Because that's what's true. God's guilt will always be calling you to become who you truly are. It will never ever ever degrade who you truly are. And that's how you tell the difference.

Listen to the voices you hear that guilt you.
Listen to the voices that come out of your own mouth that guilt you.
What are they saying?
Are they trying to tear down something deep, or build up something deep?

That will tell you who's talking to you. And that will tell you whether to listen.

Romans 8:1 - "Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, for the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set you free from the law of sin and of death..."

Why You Need to Learn How to Laugh at Yourself

Being able to laugh at yourself is extremely Godly.

Why? That seems weird...

But it's super true. Let me tell you how I learned it.

Origin Story

From birth until 24 years of age, I was what some people like to call a "sensitive person." I got sad when people made fun of me. I took it personal when someone made a joke about something stupid I did. I just couldn't handle it. And I think that's pretty standard for people.

At least, from my experience anyways. Most everybody's insecure about SOMETHING. And when you get made fun of for that specific thing, it puts you on the defensive.

Then I met Damon, who didn't follow this rule at all.

Watching My Boss Laugh at Himself

Damon was my boss from 2011 to 2013.

Writing that makes me feel like I'm doing my resume. Oh well.

Anyway, I'm fairly confident that if there was a boss pageant, Damon would win. At least, in the "being a good boss" category of the pageant. And possibly the facial hair category as well.

One of the first things I noticed about Damon was his ability to laugh at himself. If he did something stupid, he would laugh just as hard as anyone else. And sometimes harder. It always mesmerized me that he was able to do that, because I knew I couldn't. 

Where I would go to great lengths to cover up the slightest screw-up on my part, Damon would broadcast the embarrassing things he did, often inviting people to chime in to comment on them.

I just couldn't understand why or how he did it.

Why did he offer himself up for other peoples' pleasure like that? How was he strong enough to do it without crying/dying on the inside?

Why Laughing at Yourself is Godly

I don't think we ever talked about it, Damon and I. 

I think one day, I just got it.

Damon's perception of his value wasn't tied up in what he did. Not even in the least bit. Somehow, he had achieved what many people only dream of. He had found a way to TRULY have his identity where it belonged -- in the fact that he was a son of God.

He knew he was a brilliant stroke from God's paint brush, a part of a grand mural that's telling a grand story. And no silly thing he did, like tripping or falling or having a booger in his nose while he was speaking at Youth Group, was going to change that.

And man, if that wasn't the most admirable thing in the whole wide world.

One day, it finally started to click with me, too. I began to understand how to laugh at myself, at my own weaknesses.

How to Laugh at Yourself

Let me tell you what you need to know to be free enough from your insecurity to laugh at yourself:

You need to know that the type of body you have doesn't define you.

You need to know that the type of mind you have doesn't define you, either.

You need to know that the things you can't control don't and will never define you as a person.

If you're clumsy, and you're self conscious about it, it doesn't define you.

If you are forgetful, and you're self conscious about it, it doesn't define you.

I used to be super self conscious about how slow I do things, and how I don't notice things, and how I do the DUMBEST things because I'm not paying attention to something obvious. Last week, when I was playing pool, I hit the orange 5 ball with my pool stick instead of the cue ball. Because in my mind, for some reason, the 5 was the cue ball. This is what I deal with on a daily basis. I should get an award.

But here's the secret: I've learned not to associate "me" with the largely inept parts of my brain that don't do the jobs they're supposed to. 

My brain isn't me. My body isn't me. My soul is me. And God crafted my soul carefully and made it beautiful and powerful and useful and valuable. And that's where "me" is.

And because of that, I can laugh about how my dumb brain made me hit the 5 ball instead of the cue ball. I don't have to think about how much I suck because of the parts of me I don't like. Because those are just the shoddy parts of the "vehicle" my spirit is riding in.

Laughing at Yourself Makes People Like You More

One of my favorite parts of learning how to laugh at yourself without taking a deep strike on who you are is this: It honestly makes people like hanging out with you more.

Imagine with me for a second... You hang out with a friend, and your friend trips. You can't help but laugh a little. You really want to laugh at him, but you know he'd be really mad about it. So you try really hard not to laugh.

Now, Imagine a different scenario... Your friend trips, and goes tumbling down the stairs. He looks like an absolute fool. You let out an "oh my gosh" until you realize he's okay. And the way you find out he's okay is the cackling laughter emerging from the pile of carnage and school books. He says, "Holy cow, did you see that? that was hilarious!" So you feel better about that natural laugh that starts to set in. You and him laugh for thirty minutes about how silly he looked rolling down the stairs. What a goof.

You're going to like hanging out with the second person more.

When someone can be their natural self around you, they're going to feel more comfortable with you. They're going to feel like they can truly be themselves around you. And people love not having to edit themselves for fear that they might offend someone.

When one of your friends feels comfortable enough to laugh at you, they're saying, "We are good enough friends that I know you know I still love you, even if I mess with you a little bit." They see you as a strong person. That's why they feel comfortable making fun of you. And deep down, they're grateful that they don't have to edit themselves at all around you.

At least, that's often how it is...

I'll admit, I'm not perfect at laughing at myself. I still run from people making fun of me sometimes. But for the most part, I've learned to separate myself from the silly things my brain does. And it's just all around better for everybody.

Learn to laugh at yourself. It's a necessary life skill.

Damon for class president.

Actions, NOT Words, Define What You Believe

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Have you ever known someone who said one thing and did another?

Maybe a friend who claimed to believe something, but their actions didn't line up with their beliefs?

Or maybe even a friend who claimed to hate Justin Bieber's music, but then you caught him listening to it in his car?

Closet Beliebers. They need to just own it already.

If you're like me, you probably do a lot of wondering, This just doesn't add up. Why does all this happen?

I came across an interesting story recently that sheds some light on the topic.

A marketing genius was talking to a class at USC a few years ago. And to prove a point, he asked his class:

"Raise your hand if you like going to plays more than going to the movies."

A bunch of hands went up.

"That's a load of crap and you know it," he said, "and I'm about to prove it!"

"Raise your hand if you've gone to a play in the past two weeks."

Nothing.

"Now raise your hand if you've seen a movie in the past two weeks."

Hands all over the place.

Seems to me like some kids believed that they were a little more hipster than they actually were.

His point: Trust peoples' actions, not their mouths.

Marketing gurus know not to take people just at their word. Because if you invest money into what someone says instead of what someone does, you might end up outta luck. Why? Because what people DO and what people SAY don't always match up. Trust what people buy, not what they say.

Marketers know people's decisions are driven more by emotions and less by logic. People like to see themselves in a more favorable light most of the time. Me included. We might say something in an emotionless situation, but DO something completely different when our "wants" get tangled up in it.

For instance, have you ever said to yourself, "I am content with the clothes I already have," and then gone out and bought another expensive pair of pants?

You didn't buy them because you needed them... you bought them because you wanted them. And that shows you that maybe you aren't as content as you thought you were.

Actions reveal deep wants, which do a much better job of showing us what we believe than our words do.

Crazy, right? Our actions show us what we believe.

We may say we believe something if it's what we feel like we "should" believe. We may even think we believe it ourselves. But if it doesn't show up in our actions, we must not believe it.

And thus, we end up with these little "Trojan Horse" beliefs about ourselves.

Think about it.

How many times have you heard your friends say, "I believe _______", but their actions don't match up?

How many times have you and I done the same thing?

I know for a fact I'm guilty. I say things like, "I know God will take care of me," and then I live my life like there's no way that's true. I start taking matters into my own hands, living out of fear, etc.

My point is this:

You can find out what you TRULY believe by watching yourself. How do you act? What are you doing? Does it line up with what you're saying? When it comes to belief, the actions will ALWAYS trump the words. That's why they have that saying about it:

"Actions speak louder than words."

Right?

Because actions reveal beliefs.

So if you wanna know what someone TRULY believes... don't listen to them. WATCH them.

Why Do I Get So Mad When I Lose?

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When I lose, I get furious.

I just recently lost a game I really wanted to win. I REEEEAAALLLLYY wanted to win it.

I've been thinking about why I'm so mad. There's something deeper going on, and I haven't quite put my finger on it yet. But it's the deeper things inside of me that intrigue me most. And anything that I can't stop thinking about is worth digging to find the source.

I'm going to try and analyze the feeling I get when I lose. Hopefully you can gain some insight into your own life from it.

After I lose a game, my mind races. Why did I lose? I HAVE to know why I lost. What would have made me not lose? What can I do for next time so I won't lose? That's what's happening right now, even as I type this.

And when the other team celebrates their victory, it makes me even more mad. I hear them celebrating and the only thing I can think is "If I hadn't sucked so bad here and screwed up there, you wouldn't have even won. You're not even good." It seems as if I have a problem letting people be better than me.

I think the problem is that I value myself by my ability to prevail against adversity.

I don't know why, and I don't know how. But I have learned to define myself by what I do. After I lose, I get this tremendous urge to go practice for hours and hours, so that I will never ever lose again. So I will never ever not be enough again.

Yeah, I know. my identity isn't in what I do. It's in Jesus, right?

The problem is sometimes that doesn't mean anything to me. I can say it to myself, but that doesn't fix what's deeply wrong at my core. There's something wrong -- but it's too many layers deep. I can't see what it is.

I don't think there's anything wrong with being competitive, but I wonder if there is something wrong with where it's coming from.

My friends and I had a conversation on the beach about competitiveness a few years back, after a riveting game of beach Bocce. The question was this: "Do you love to win, or do you hate to lose?"

I hate to lose.

I think I'm even afraid to lose.

I'm afraid because of what it will mean about me...  that I won't be enough.

But what does "enough" mean?

Does enough really mean "good enough to win at a video game"? Yes, that's what's got me feeling like this, by the way. A video game. I know when I think logically about it that it's incredibly silly to say I'm not worthy because I lost a video game. But there's something in me that tells me I'm not until I can convince myself logically it's silly. And that's how I know there's something wrong way down deep inside me. My deep self believes it. I'm believing something about the world, about myself, that's not true. But it's buried deep inside me. It's like a computer virus, hidden in my computer. What could it be?

At least I know that much. And if your experience is similar, maybe you can use this as a shortcut to get at least this far.

Here's the question I'm going to struggle through this week. Why is it that I'm not defined by whether I try and succeed or whether I try and fail? Because I just don't know why that's a bad scale. I just know it is a bad scale.

I'm not going to stop here. I'm going to figure out.

 And if you are ever in the same place as me, I suggest you do the same. Because the answer is out there, and we don't have to live like this. We've been freed from having to believe in lies. So often, we just accept it because we don't think anything will ever change. But that's not true. God's plan for us is constant release into more and more freedom.

Join me in pushing forward to find the truth. Because the truth will set us free.

John 8: 31-36 - So Jesus said to the Jews who had believed him, “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” They answered him,“We are offspring of Abraham and have never been enslaved to anyone. How is it that you say, ‘You will become free’?”

Jesus answered them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who practices sin is a slave to sin. The slave does not remain in the house forever; the son remains forever. So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

Why Growing in Christ is Like Learning Guitar

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First off, if you've tried and failed at guitar, don't freak out.

Second, if you want to ACTUALLY learn how to play, my special fee for email list followers is $25 a lesson. Talk about incentives, right? I'm assuming everyone will be jumping all over that one.

I'm only one man, people. I can't teach everybody how to play.

SOOOO... Why is growing in Christ like learning how to play the guitar?

Well, I'll tell you.

It starts out crazy awesome...

We've had quite a journey, me and my trusty Washburn. I got her (or him) when I was a junior in high school, and we've been best friends ever since. I thumped down the stairs on Christmas morning to find ol' Washy just staring at me next to the tree, as if to say, "Laying with the rest of the presents is beneath me. And besides, I can't fit." I did nothing else for weeks.

When you first make a commitment to follow Christ, cloud nine ensues. You just feel like nothing is ever going to feel bad again, and nothing is ever going to change. Everything is just peachy.

And then it gets hard.

Learning guitar sounds great in theory -- You'll be able to play your favorite songs, rock in a band, impress all the ladies. And then you get into the nitty gritty. And then it gets hard. And then your fingers get swollen. And then you want to stop.

If you want to advance, it takes actual hard work. Sound familiar?

At some point in your Christian walk, you realize you have to actually sacrifice things when you follow Christ. You realize it doesn't feel good all the time. You realize studying the Bible and listening for God's voice is hard work. And sometimes you want to quit listening and go play guitar.

Sometimes you don't feel like you're getting better... 

There was a point in time where I woke up one morning after practicing guitar for three hours the night before, only to find out I was worse than when I had started yesterday. Talk about frustrating. Sometimes you put in a ton of practice, and you get minimal, if any, returns. Sometimes, it even seems like you've gotten weaker.

Does the term "backslidden" mean anything to you? Because I've had plenty of times where I wondered if the last few months or so of my spiritual life had been wasted. And sometimes, even when I'm putting forth the effort to study and learn, I just end up feeling more confused. It's hard to recognize you're growing when every day feels more confusing.

But when you zoom out, you are.

The times where I didn't see results in my guitar playing were always frustrating. But after a while, when I zoomed out from the daily graph to see the monthly or even the yearly graph, I saw the upward trend. I actually was getting better.

Going through trials has a similar way of making you feel like the wheels have come off. But when you zoom out, you can see how far you've come. You remember all the things you've already overcome to get to this point. And you realize God's been faithful, and you're closer now than you were a few years ago. And then, you recognize it -- you actually are growing.

And you're not really sure how.

The funny thing is, I didn't even recognize it. I just suddenly could play the songs I was practicing. And I didn't really know how or why my fingers just decided to finally work -- especially when they seemed so adamant about not working for the previous two months. They just did. And then I began to play full songs, which inspired me to learn more and practice even harder songs. And thus, I learned the rhythm of learning how to do new things. And I've never again been so discouraged by the process. Because I realized it was normal. I was normal.

One of my favorite verses right now is Mark 4:26-29, where Jesus describes living in His kingdom like this:

"A man scatters seed on the ground. Night and day, whether he sleeps or gets up, the seed sprouts and grows, though he does not know how. All by itself the soil produces grain—first the stalk, then the head, then the full kernel in the head. As soon as the grain is ripe, he puts the sickle to it, because the harvest has come.”

Growing in Christ is like watering a seed. You don't have to make it grow; you just have to provide the right environment for it to grow. And then it grows by itself, in its own way, on its own time. And then finally, you look back, and there's something sticking out of the ground!

There's a rhythm to growing.

It's a correlation more than a steady incline.

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 Some days you'll be higher than normal, and other days you'll be lower. But when you plot out the days and zoom out, you see they point upward... especially when you're consistently giving yourself the right environment to grow. James Clear, a blogger and weightlifter, wrote a great post about how whatever you do consistently gives you compounded results.

It's no wonder Paul compared growing in Christ to growing your physical body. Because all kinds of growing share the same rhythm.

And that's why growing in Christ is like learning to play guitar. It's all about the steady progress that comes from time and experience.


1 Timothy 4:7-8 - Have nothing to do with irreverent, silly myths. Rather, train yourself for godliness; for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.

Does Accepting God's Love Make A Man Weak?

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We men don't have time to fiddle around with love.

It makes us weak. We're strong. So all that feely stuff doesn't have a place in our manly man lives.

...Right?

I used to think accepting God's love made me a wuss. It's honestly not a crazy thing to think -- we men like to feel like warriors, fighting for what we believe in, protecting who and what we care about. We like to feel strong. Strong is part of a man's identity, part of his Original Design. And sometimes, receiving love doesn't make us feel very strong.

Recently, I've been living my spiritual life not accepting love from God because it made me feel weak. It made me feel like less of a man to revel in His love. You know... because love is just so... mushy.

But that all changed a couple weeks ago.

Last month, I felt like God was telling me to read Song of Solomon because he wanted me to bask in his love. Gross, I said. That's what needy people do.

I resisted for a while. I knew what was best for me, and being super mushy just isn't me.

Then, in classic God fashion, He started using multiple different avenues to say the same thing to me. From sermons to books, everything pointed to the fact that I wasn't accepting God's love.

So finally, I relented.

I began to read Song of Solomon. And God began working on me, slowly cracking through my hard, shellish exterior. I began to experience His love in a way more refreshing than a thousand ocean breezes. God began telling me things that were true about me, things that I thought were going to be mushy but actually made me strong. He began telling me how crazy he was about me, which I thought was going to be mushy but it made me filled with courage and the will to fight for goodness in this world.

And then I realized I had it all wrong. God's love makes a man strong, not weak.

Starving myself of God's love only made me lose clarity. It made me turn inward, it made me only care about myself. When that happened, I lost sight of the great battle taking place for the Original Design of humanity, and I lost sight of my role in it as a warrior and a change bringer.

And I realized something else. What I thought was protecting me and making me strong was actually keeping me from receiving life. 

love feels like it makes you needy. But in reality, being vulnerable and open is the thing that makes you stronger. Know what makes you weaker? Isolation. Isolating your deep self from God and from your community. We men, just like women, were made to share our deep selves instead of hiding them. We convince ourselves it's not manly to talk about our feelings, but it's really fear. It's weakness that keeps us from talking about our deep selves, from opening up to love.

Attention men: Us refusing to accept God's love is like us refusing to eat.

Does it make you weak to need food? Of course not. It shouldn't make you weak to need love either. It's a basic human survival need... for your spirit.

I've learned some things in the past month. I've learned that love doesn't have to make a man feel girly. When God showers love on a man, it makes him stronger. It makes him see more clearly. It unlocks power and allows him to fight more effectively in the battle that actually matters -- the battle for souls. Love makes a man fight harder for relationships, fight harder for connection, and fight harder for his friends.

We hold it out of our relationship with God because we get tricked into thinking it clashes with our Original Design.

But the reality is, when men accept God's love and bask in it, and then learn to dish it back out, that's when they become a force to be reckoned with... a force the enemy is truly scared of.

And that's why a man's ability to give and receive love is always under attack.

1 Corinthians 13:1-3 - "If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing."

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 - "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

1 John 4:19 - "We love because he first loved us."

Living Life Like an Alternate

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Ever been an alternate for a team?

There's something about it. It's kind of funny. You're not sure whether you should be sad or frustrated that you aren't good enough to start, or whether you should be proud you're good enough to be on the team in the first place (I'm speaking from my experience with the elementary school track team).

I'd always imagine what it would be like to be the best guy on the team. I'd think about how many people would love me for it, and how my life would have so much more meaning. And then I'd snap out of it and go back to being frustrated that I was just the alternate.

What about you? Do you know what I'm talking about?

What about in regards to Christianity?

Do you ever feel like you're the alternate in Christianity? Like there's five other people God would rather speak to, ten other people He'd rather send to do his work, and 20 people He'd rather give extraordinary worship experiences to?

Have you ever felt like God decided to make someone else cry or raise their hands during worship and not you, and therefore you're not as important?

Because I have.

It really makes you feel like you're living a crappy story, doesn't it? It makes you feel like God's got better things, and better people, to worry about besides you. It makes you feel like the alternate at the elementary school city track meet, watching as your classmates run by and win the gold. It was almost you, but you just weren't fast enough to be a part of something better, something greater.

We want to be heroes in a story. It's deeply set within us. We want to feel like what we do matters, like there's a pathway that leads up, like God really cares whether we get to it, like we could have something special of deep meaning to give the world and our friends if we were just able to find it.

Instead, we too often imagine ourselves as one of the extras in Lost, the random survivors who you've never seen before, who have apparently been there the whole time. You can always tell these guys are going down before the episode is over. Any survivor that you have never seen before ends up getting shot in the back with a flaming arrow, or something of that nature. Somebody's gotta get dominated or it wouldn't be interesting, right? Too often, though, that's how we perceive our part in the grand scheme of things.

It causes us to live our lives like worthless expendables.

We resign ourselves to unimportance just because we think we are unimportant, unneeded, and largely unwanted.

I know people who have really passionate encounters with God in church and in life. I know other people who see that, see the lack of those things in their own lives, and believe they're not worth anything to God because they don't experience those things. I used to be the latter. I felt like a second rate Christian, so I lived my life like a second rate Christian.

In high school, I looked longingly into the lives of many of my friends who were having really meaningful encounters with God in the same way an alternate watches as his team wins the gold. I was happy for them, but I sure did wish I could be a part of it.

I've learned something important, though.

I don't think it's about how important or unimportant someone is, and I don't think it's about how much someone "feels God."

What I've found is simple: the ones who find their place in the story, and their intimacy with God, are just the ones who really want to, enough to give up self glory and comfort... enough to embrace conflict and suffering and vulnerability, the things that open someone up to love and adventure (qualities of God).

We don't feel like a main character, so we don't act like a main character. But what if our role in the story is directly proportional to how much of a role we want in the story?

Maybe you don't have to put your hands up when you worship. Maybe you don't have to "pray well" in front of other people. Maybe you just have to want more than what you're experiencing; to be empty and not be okay with it.

Desire leads to motivation. Motivation leads to action. Action leads to result.

It's time we stopped treating relationship with God like talent.

Here's my bottom line. The more God you want, the more God you're going to get. Maybe it will take a while. Maybe it already has. But don't let that make you forget God's promises that he connects with those who want to connect with him.

God's message is clear: we are important to him. And we each have an important story to live out. God's love for us has made us main characters in his story. So let's start living like it.


Matthew 7:7-8 - "Ask, and you will receive; seek, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks will receive, and anyone who seeks will find, and the door will be opened to those who knock."

Matthew 9:37-38 - When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few. Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field.”

Psalm 37:4 - "Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart."

(When you delight yourself in the Lord, then he will be the desires of your heart)

Song of Solomon 4:9 - "You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes..."